Singapore has seen numerous cases of broken families, childbirths out of wedlock, and even of long term relationships only gone sour. Yet, people still insist on finding that special someone they can share the rest of their lives with. It seems that human beings are wired to have that emotional need for love. Love is powerful enough to shred our emotions to pieces and yet it’s too irresistible to ignore once it comes knocking back in our hearts. Let’s see what the experts among us think as to why human beings simply fall in love.
Blame it on the hormones
Scientists have observed that we produce certain chemical compounds in our body when we meet someone that causes the attraction. Samples of such hormones can be the Oxytocin and Vasopressin. These hormones send signals in our brains making us feel the emotional equivalent for desire and attraction. We also have certain preferences on a combination of hormones which explains why we only get attracted to some people.
It’s all in the mind
Psychologists say that love is caused by the psychological factors at work in an individual. Discovering that you share the same things that you love makes you feel closer to another person. Spending a considerable amount of time with someone and sharing intimate conversations can make you feel that you both like each other. Psychologists suggest that it is what we believe in that fuels romance and passion with another person.
Let’s get physical
Most of us fall in love through our eyes. This is probably how the cliché Love at First Sight came about. We each have a mental picture of what is a beautiful and sexy woman or a gorgeous man. These aesthetic and sexual preferences that we hold in our mind will trigger the emotional equivalent of physical attraction once we meet someone who resembles our desired image.
Because it’s social
Lastly, our environment has a lot to do in shaping us to become beings with longings to be in a relationship. Families are the building units of societies so our society would encourage its individual members to build families in order for the society to thrive. We are also living in an age where social media heavily influences the way we think and live our lives. We see a lot of desirable images of couples in a relationship making us want to have something similar.